onaveridiansea:
“ maxofs2d:
“https://twitter.com/spacetwinks/status/811945526249869312
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“I’ll tell you this, bullies didn’t stop bullying me when I gave them everything they wanted, or when I talked to them about my feelings. Bullies stopped...
maxofs2d

https://twitter.com/spacetwinks/status/811945526249869312

onaveridiansea

“I’ll tell you this, bullies didn’t stop bullying me when I gave them everything they wanted, or when I talked to them about my feelings.  Bullies stopped bullying me when they felt like they had something to lose if they tried to trample me.

“Moreover, bullies were actually more likely to actually listen to me about my feelings, if they felt like they had something to lose first.  Sometimes people are actually incapable of caring about you as a human being until they’re scared you’ll hit back first.

“I describe a lot of shit in this like leverage.  Until you have leverage against your opponent, “good faith debate” is meaningless.  If they have nothing to lose by dismissing you and your humanity, then constantly coming to the table trying to convert bigots?  Pointless.

“If you sincerely want to reform nazis, then first those nazis have to be scared of you for this to be even possible.  People keep linking that piece of that stormfrnt [sic] kid who changed his views, but they always gloss over the fact that he himself said that the rejection and shame of his views by the community was IMPORTANT for him to actually consider he was wrong in the first place.”